It's time of the year to play Santa Claus again and we’ve been waiting all year for this (even though you don't admit it to the kids)… yes, the big moment when you not only GIVE presents but also RECIEVE them and OPEN them.
Your heart starts thumping and you tear off the paper, feigning a smile as your heart secretly lurches and you get a sick feeling in your stomach: It's that photoframe you would never, ever use!
We've all been on the receiving end of an awful gift before…
Give your loved ones, and your wallet, a break, and make sure the money you spend will go toward gifts the receiver will actually want to keep…
Top 10 Gift Ideas to Avoid
1. Exercise Equipment: While it is okay to give someone a Flabeloss if they request for it themselves, giving them one without their requesting it is as good as saying, “You got fat, you should lose some weight.” Unless you want to spend your holiday eve kneeling on some durian shells.. at no point in time should you EVER, EVER give your other half an exercise equipment. The same goes to your family and friends as well.
2. Anything Used: If the box is crinkled, even slightly, they'll know it's been used! Same goes for clothing that mysteriously contains no tags, or popcorn tins that are slightly less than full. How would you feel if you received something like that?
3. Gifts That Require Work: Vacuum cleaners, dishwashers and most kitchen appliances should not be considered, "gifts." Again, a possible exception is if they have been asked for -- no, begged for -- and even then ask yourself, would they really like something that adds fun or enchantment to life instead?
4. Socks: Most people are happy to buy their own socks, and would rather do so than receive them as a present. (Yes, even if they're covered in reindeer or have separate places for each toe.) Don't believe? Consumer Reports found that socks were the most offensive and disappointing gift that people received in 2005!
5. Homemade "Trinkets:" There are some exceptions here -- for example, such gifts from children to parents -- but generally, the recipient will not appreciate the hours you spent hot-glue-gunning tiny Christmas bears to a wooden sleigh (that you also spent hours hand-painting with the family's initials and coat of arms). We know this violates some people's assumptions and best intentions, but according to experts and studies it is so!
6. "Weird" Items: It's tempting to buy that one-of-a-kind, fuzzy, fuchsia sweater vest for Aunt Sue, or that giant frog-shaped paperweight for cousin Pete, but, unless you know they've been yearning for one, chances are slim that they'll like it (and odd items may be difficult to return). Remember, there is a line between tasteful unique gifts and flat-out weird ones, and the line is not that fine.
7. Clothing: Although clothing is the most popular gift for 2006 shoppers, according to Consumer Reports, it also came in as the most disappointing category (with socks the worst among them) of gifts received in 2005. So unless you are absolutely confident that you know the correct size, color, fabric -- and style -- that the person will like, don't buy it. Less risky are neutral items of clothing that don't quite run these risks.
8. Lingerie: In a similar vein, lingerie is a risky bet. Pick out something she likes, and that's the correct size, and you may have done well -- but the chances of this are slim (no pun intended). More likely you'll buy something that's too big (and therefore implying she's fat), or too small (and therefore implying she's fat), or is the wrong style entirely (opening up a whole new can of worms).
9. Items That Could Hurt (or Annoy) Others: Your neighbor's kids may love a drum set, but would their parents speak to you afterward? Similarly, rollerblades are fun, but did your Uncle Theo tell you about his bad hip? Risky items in this category include slingshots, pellet guns and other toys that involve projectiles, items that involve loud, repetitive sounds, and sports equipment and/or power tools that fall into the wrong hands.
10. Novelty Gifts: You may think that a fly-in-the-ice-cube gag is the greatest thing, but chances are that novelty gifts such as these will not impress your loved ones (unless they're 5 years old). Also watch out for quirky things that you may think are cute, but will actually violate the rule above (think the "Singing Bass" fish that hangs on the wall or a snowglobe that plays "It's a Small World").
What Can You Give?
Of course, keeping the individual and their tastes and preferences in mind is always rule #1 (and may possibly lead you to violate any of the "rules" above -- some people ARE genuinely excited by receiving flexible ultramicrofiber duster for the holidays!) But if your gift list has now been diminished, here are some items that etiquette experts consider safe to give, and usually truly appreciated by the recipient:
· Gift Cards
· Toys (you can please BOTH kids and their parents with the right educational toy)
· Electronics
· Personalized gifts (you know, those types with their names or faces) ... especially for women
· Jewelry
· Soaps, face wash, body wash and other "neutral" toiletries
· Books and movies (best if you know the recipients' taste in books and movies)
Among the most desired gifts, Consumer Reports found that electronics were tops for men, while women preferred gift cards, followed closely by jewelry. Also desired by at least a handful of the survey participants were good health and peace on earth.
